Written for http://www.ibcperspectives.com – June 2012

Emotional Healing


Sexual abuse victims are sitting on your pews.

Carol Clemans

Sexual abuse is a taboo subject for many people. Unfortunately, victims are sitting on our church pews. In reported cases, 1 out of 3 women have been sexually abused and 1 in 4 men. The sad news is that the majority of cases go unreported! There is verbal, visual and physical sexual abuse. Salvation does not wipe out the memories or emotions of these atrocious acts against innocent children of any age from birth to 18 and beyond. I’ve counseled many women who were sexually abused from the time they could remember until they were 18 years old and left home.

It’s impossible in this short article to address the horrifying emotional damage sexual abuse has on mental growth in a victim. Long-term effects that are frequently reported and associated with sexual abuse include depression, self-destructive behavior, anxiety, feelings of isolation, stigma, poor God-worth image, difficulty in trusting others and sexual maladjustment that can lead to homosexual tendencies.

Churches must become equipped as healing helpers. I offer teaching seminars through Skype live on the Internet for churches. A sexual abuse recovery seminar can be promoted as equipping leaders as well as helping the abuse victims. We need to remove the stigma related to the subject and offer God’s truth for healing.

Please DO NOT say, “Just pray and give it to God!” Victims have been praying privately for years to God to remove the pain and emotional damage. They need the tools of how to use God’s Word to “be transformed by renewing their minds” through God’s truth. Victims believe the lies of the devil regarding their emotions. They need Godly wisdom and encouragement to replace the devil’s lies with God’s truth. “Here a little, there a little, line upon line, precept upon precept.” God’s truth applied to the heart must take root to change the thoughts/feelings of the abused. Pastors, please have a sensitive heart to the ‘silent’ hurting people sitting on your pews. Call me to discuss the Internet seminar (636) 448-0121.

(c) Carol Clemans – May 2012

Carol Clemans is a Certified Pastoral Counselor/Bible conference speaker/Christian Life Coach. She provides confidential nationwide phone counseling for pastors & laypersons. Go to: http://www.carolclemans.org for 118 articles, teaching CD’s and new book: GOD’S DESIGN FOR MARRIAGE. The Clemans’ pastor is Dieter Skowron, Johnstown Co.