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By: Carol Clemans

I write a monthly column for In Vol.22/No.4 of Perspectives, there is a short article entitled “Radical Homosexual Agenda in U.S. Congress.” It states the following: “The goal of many radical homosexuals is to create a new America based on sexual promiscuity in which moral values are forgotten. If the deceptively named ‘Student Non-Discrimination Act.’ (H.R. 998 & S. 555) is passed that’s exactly what will happen. Better named the ‘Homosexual Classrooms Act,’ its chief advocate in Congress is Rep. Jared Polis, reportedly an open homosexual. H.R. 998 already has 147 co-sponsors in the House, and S. 555 has 34 co-sponsors in the Senate. It is time to contact your congressman!”

Is this the America you want for your children and grandchildren????????? I say, ‘NO!” Our current President made a public statement that America is no longer a Christian nation. There is some truth in his statement because it’s become much more acceptable in society for all types of sexual sins. Yes, there still are sins in the sight of God! God created man and woman. He gave them the gift of sex within the boundaries of marriage. They have the privilege to bond in body, soul and spirit for life to enjoy all the pleasures of passion blessed by God.

All sexual activity outside the bounds of marriage between a husband and wife are sexual sins. God has rules for our provision and protection. Fornication, adultery, homosexuality, sex trafficking, sexual abuse and pornography are all sin in the sight of God. God’s laws have never changed. Because God does not bring instant judgment to mankind, our world has decided they can act out their sexual desires in any way they choose and get by with it.

But there is coming a time in the near future that ‘every knee shall bow and every tongue will confess that Jesus Christ is Lord.’ Every human being will stand before our Creator God and be judged according to their deeds and words. The only way to escape the judgment of God is to become a follower of Him.

I know there will be two reactions to this article. One will be the reader who becomes angry because they are fulfilling their sinful selfish desires daily. The other reader will be one who is rejoicing because someone is bold enough to speak (write) God’s truth. As a believer in God, I will open my mouth against sin and stand for God’s righteousness through the written word and my vote. Thank God we still have the freedom to pray and to vote in America. If all believers would vote their conscious for morals and values regarding laws and politicians, we could turn this nation around to be called a Christian nation again. Will you do you part?

Carol Clemans is a Cert. Pastoral Counselor/Christian Life Coach/Bible conference speaker. She provides nationwide counseling by phone & web cam.



By: Carol Clemans

In the world we have hurting people. We bring them to salvation through Jesus Christ. Now we have saved hurting people. When God removes our sins through repentance, water baptism and receiving the Holy Ghost, He does not remove our memories or life experiences. If anything happened in the past that caused physical or emotional pain such as any type of abuse, we can be saved but have damaged emotions that are distorting our current thinking.

Let me give you an example. Before my Bible-based counseling education, I had a firm foundation of biblical knowledge. My late father, Elder Raymond G. Theobald, was a great theologian and eschatology teacher/preacher. I received the Holy Ghost at age nine and began teaching young children in Sunday school at the age of 14. Even before 14, I loved God’s Word. My father planted a desire in my young heart to know God through His Word. In my 30’s, I was teaching adult classes the Word of God, people would come up to me with emotional wounds from the past or present life. They were saved, but dealing with emotional pain and I did not know how to answer. When the Lord opened the door for me to attend THE INSTITITUE OF CHRISTIAN COUNSELING (2 year master’s level teaching integrating biblical principals with counseling principals) it revolutionized my understanding of how to apply God’s truth to help the hurting be ‘set free’ from the pain of their past.

Do you know that sexual abuse victims feel dirty, unclean, unlovable and sometimes unforgiven even after salvation? Do you know many abuse victims become promiscuous because they feel dirty and live out their feelings in actions? Do you know that 1 out of 3 females are abuse victims and 1 out of 4 males? Do you know the damage that is done physically, emotionally and spiritually when someone is addicted to pornography? Do you know that porn addiction is the worst addiction to overcome and the reasons? Do you know how to walk that addicted person through recovery? Do you know the emotional damage that takes place in the hearts of children who are victims of divorce? Do you know how to help someone with anger issues that are rooted in an abusive childhood? Do you know the family of origin and family systems that are dysfunctional are displayed in adult relationships of the next generation? Do you have an understanding of some of the root causes of making a decision to becoming a homosexual? Do you know how to walk a person who has homosexual tendencies to healing by allowing God to re-parent them? Do you know how to help a marriage that has been destroyed by adultery? Do you know how to help that broken marriage be healed by working through the dysfunctional issues that existed before the adultery? Do you know how to help a couple restore their marital trust factor?

All of the above questions and many other subjects I could name were things I did not know before my God-based counseling education. Even after 20 years of pastoral counseling, I still do not know it all but continue learning everyday.

The reason I present this cause is we have saved hurting wounded people sitting on our church pews who do not have the joy of the Lord in their lives. Their lives and marriages are dysfunctional and they do not know what to do about it. It takes more than saying, “Honey, just pray and give it to Jesus.” They’ve been praying for years over these painful issues. What they need help with is knowing how to “be transformed by renewing their minds.” I want to teach others how to be ‘healing helpers’ within the body of Christ through the power of God’s Word!

I’m offering pastors an opportunity to equip their church leaders and the hurting people through teaching God-based counseling principles through the modern technology of the Internet. If your church is equipped with the Internet (or even home leadership classes), through the free download of, I can teach your church a series of counseling principles on all the subjects above. This could be done weekly or monthly over a period of time. This would save your church the expense of my transportation, housing, food, etc.; your only expense would be giving my ministry an offering per session. Along with the teaching, I would recommend specified books that are Bible-based on counseling issues.

The church needs to be more than a salvation station. We need to be a spiritual hospital helping the saved with their emotional and relational issues. The first ten years of my counseling was under the leadership of the late Bishop Kenneth Haney. When he decided to have me provide pastoral counseling for his church he said, “If most pastors would admit it, we are not equipped to help people with their relational and emotional issues.” I’m thankful for his wisdom. This does not take away from theological knowledge. (I taught six years at Christian Life College – one subject being: “Principles of Counseling.”) My father who was an 80-year-old theologian when I began my counseling education said to me, “I see you are learning how to use God’s Word in a way I do not understand. If I wasn’t 80 years old, I would be going to college with you.” He did attend with me as a guest on occasion.

I provide nationwide counseling by phone and web cam. I counsel pastors and lay people. It is done in complete confidentiality between the person, God and me. I’m teaching the Word through Skype, even worldwide (currently for a church in Sweden on a bi-weekly basis). In today’s tight financial economy, teaching/counseling through Skype provides a financial savings to churches and individuals.

Pastors, if you are interested in helping your church become more efficient in meeting the needs of the church membership, please call me (636) 448-0121. When the church receives emotional, spiritual and relationship healing, they can reproduce healthiness to the next generation and new believers.

Go to my website: Read the 100+ articles I’ve written and my bio. Order my teaching CD’s and new book on marriage, God’s Design for Marriage. The more I know, the more I realize I don’t know. This truth creates a desire in my heart for continued learning everything I can based on God’s Word to help others – “speaking the truth in love, may grow up in all things into Him” – Ephesians 4:15. Email:

(My husband, ordained minister Harold E. Clemans, and I attend Pastor Dieter Skowron’s church in Johnstown, CO).

Written for – April 15, 2012


By: Carol Clemans

It’s amazing to me that in this modern day we still hear statements, “She’s never worked a day in her life. She’s a stay-at-home Mom!” Having been an 8 – 5 employee as an administrative secretary in my young years (five years before marriage and five years after), I know what it is like to be in the work force. When I became a mother, I only worked a few months longer and then my husband and I decided I should quit working outside the home and begin the most major challenge in the world. Being a full time mom is the greatest position to have and the outcome of a mom’s influence will last throughout eternity.

Is it work? YES, it is work! There’s an old saying, “A man’s work is from dawn till set of sun, but a woman’s work is never done.” There is no truer statement. When you are a new mom, babies do not know day from night. Lack of sleep is one of the major problems. Because moms love their children, they sacrifice and do whatever it takes to provide their children’s needs. They can’t punch the time clock at 8 a.m. and punch out of work at 5 p.m. Children’s demands are 24 hours a day.

The stay-at-home mom is a domestic engineer with a major job description. She’s the administrator of the family. She’s the anchor of the home. It’s been estimated that if a husband had to hire someone to do all his stay-at-home wife does, he would be paying over $100,000 a year. She’s the meal planner, grocery shopper, chef, maid, chauffer, counselor, accountant, wardrobe supplier, school volunteer, event planner, decorator, family coordinator, spiritual influence, relationship expert, teacher of life’s principles, many are home school teachers, etc., etc. You get the ‘picture’ by now. The Bible calls it the ‘keeper’ of the home.

If the mom has a second job outside the home, she has two full time jobs. I see no need for a professional woman to make a ‘put down’ remark about any woman who chooses to be a full time domestic engineer. I’m a woman who attended college before marriage. During the eight years I home schooled my children, I continued taking college classes. When I became a certified pastoral counselor, I went to work for 15 hours a week at a local church. My children did not like me being gone even part time from home.

The most valuable thing I have done in my life is to love, nurture, and care for my children. No matter what I may do on this earth, nothing will be as lasting as the spiritual ‘footprint’ I left in the heart of my children that gave them their heartfelt desire to love and serve God. I’m a conference speaker, an author and a counselor who through these resources have touched thousands of lives across the nation for God’s glory. But nothing is more important than my being a mom who nurtured two children through to adulthood who will live eternally with their Creator.

© Carol Clemans – April 2012

Carol Clemans is a Cert. Pastoral Counselor/Christian Life Coach/conference speaker. She provides nationwide counseling by phone & web cam – (636) 448-0121. Go to: for bio, teaching CD’s, book: GOD’S DESIGN FOR MARRIAGE.

Church Support for Widows & Widowers


By: Carol Clemans

My heart has been concerned for years about the widows and widowers in our churches. When a spouse dies, the family, friends and church family come around with comfort, attention and food. Within weeks, sometimes just days, everyone goes back to his or her normal way of life and the remaining spouse is feeling the aloneness like a plague that is emotionally deadly. But reality is that the life of the surviving spouse will never return to the former normal.

One of my experiences of being a support to a widow was in my middle 30’s when the husband of a woman in our church suddenly died of a heart attack. The widow had family close, but even they had to go back to their regular life. The widow was 20 years my senior, but I would call her and invite her to come to my house for coffee. I set lunch dates with her. I put her and her late husband’s birthdays, anniversary and his death day on my family calendar. I would either call her or send her a card for these special days in her life for over twenty years. Many times she would tell me her family did not remember. When we were together, I would ask her to tell me about her husband, how they met, etc.

On a regular basis, we invited my widow friend to join us in family outings. I invited her to couple functions that we had at our home along with other single/widows. I put myself in their shoes and decided I did not want to be treated any different when I became a widow, so I treated others the way that I would want to be treated as a widow. I set the ‘lonely’ among our family and friends. (Psalm 68:6 NLT “God places the lonely in families.”)

Every church should make it a priority to set the lonely widow/er among a family in the church. This should especially be done if the widow/er has no immediate family in the local church. It can be done discreetly. Encourage a family to contact the widow and invite her to a family dinner. Find out their birthday and surprise them with a birthday cake and flowers, etc. On holidays be sure the widow/er is invited to someone’s family function.

The widows in some churches get together for lunches, etc. That is wonderful, but they should not be labeled the ‘widows group’ and be isolated. They need to be integrated into the church family. They can be an adopted sister, aunt, mother, grandmother, etc. The same can be done for widowers.

I do not believe that God intended the church to be segregated in to groups by age or marital status. I do not see this in the Bible – Old or New Testament. I do not find in the Bible where the young were lead by the young or the old were taken care of by the old. Families were integrated together. When Jesus taught on the hillsides of Judea, there were families, men, women and children all together.Everyone has value and worth whether they are young, old, single, never married, married or a widow/er. The church family needs to be much more supportive all year round to those who have lost a loved one through death.

My mother was a widow for 12 years. I have friends who are widows/ers. The loneliness is the major issue for all of them. Not having that special person to share their lives with. They must learn how to create a new normal for their lives and it greatly helps when the church family steps outside of their routine of life and shows love and care to the lonely.

If the Lord tarries, many of you reading this article will experience your spouse’s death. When it happens to you, you will want others to willingly give their time, attention and love to you on a continual basis and not just at the funeral time. I pray you (the reader) take this article to your pastor and church family and start showing the world your love for God by continually loving one another in time of need and loneliness.

© Carol Clemans – April 2012 (115 articles posted – bio – products for sale.)

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Seminars via Internet Bless Churches

PASTORS: Do you want to help the marriages in your church to be fulfilled with love, joy and peace? Do you want your young people to be challenged for sexual purity – giving tools how to flee temptation? Do you have people sitting on your pews that were sexual abuse victims who have never received help and live with their secret emotional pain? Jesus came not only to save us, but also to heal our brokenness through His truth.

Via the Internet, you can provide your church with challenging seminars taught from God’s Word. I’m teaching a series of Bible seminars to a church in SWEDEN through using the free technology! The pastor connects the computer to a big screen – we see each other live. Through Skype, I offer the same teachings I do in my travels for churches, retreats and conferences. This opportunity saves a church the expense of travel/hotel/food – only expense is a ministry offering.

A marriage seminar is scheduled for a church for 5 Friday evenings over a 5-week period. I can be much more flexible with times in teaching through Skype. A seminar for leaders on “Principles of Counseling” is available that can be taught over a period of weeks for those who are interested in becoming better equipped for ministering to the hurting.

My ministry is unique because I’m a Certified Pastoral Counselor for 20 years plus a Bible teacher for 50 years. Go to my website: and read my bio and my heartbeat for ministry to teach God’s Word for spiritual, emotional and relational growth. As I provided a counseling ministry for Bishop Kenneth Haney for 10 years, I do the same now for pastors through Skype across the nation. This is how the teaching on Skype started. If you want a sample of my teaching call: (636) 448-0121.

Carol Clemans is a Certified Pastoral Counselor/Christian Life Coach/Bible teacher for churches & conferences. She provides nationwide phone & web cam counseling. Order her teaching CD’s & book: GOD’S DESIGN FOR MARRIAGE through her website: The Clemans’ pastor is Dieter Skowron of Johnstown, CO.

(c) Carol Clemans – April 2012 – March 30, 2012


By: Carol Clemans

The teen shooting in Florida is a tragic loss for his family. I will leave it to the courts to decide the right and wrong in this episode of life. What amazes me is that the nation is in an uproar about this one death when this nation has allowed over 50 million babies (white & black) to be murdered without cause in the last 30 years through abortion! A large portion of those 50 million murdered babies would be a part of America’s productive society today if they had been given a choice of life. If allowed to live, they would now be taxpayers helping to support this country. Instead, we murdered them for ‘our’ convenience.

Who will ‘stand up’ for the silent voices of the 50 million aborted babies? Who will stop telling lies to pregnant mothers saying they just have a little ‘blob’ inside that can easily be removed with no problems?? Many women who have aborted a child for convenience sake have had tremendous physical female problems the rest of their lives. Many have been unable to conceive again when it is convenient for them. I have counseled and tried to comfort the heart of grieving women who chose to abort a child and every year on that day they are in heavy grief because they realize they have killed a baby that was safely in the womb before the deadly decision was made.

Yes, I believe in forgiveness and restoration. But forgiveness from a sin does not erase the emotions or ramifications. God has forgiven people who have lived a lifestyle that exposed them to AIDS when they have a change of heart in repentance. But many continued to suffer from the diseases they contacted through their promiscuity. The Bible says there is pleasure in sin for a season. It also says we all will reap what we sow. If everyone everywhere were allowed to do anything they desired, our societies worldwide would be destroyed over a period of time. If society did not have laws of right and wrong, a running rampage of selfishness would destroy this world.

It’s interesting that the basis of the laws of America come from biblical principles. Yet, we want to limit God’s influence in our lives. The Bible teaches that there is a way that seems right to man, but it will lead to destruction. No one will escape the judgment of God. It is extremely sad that a teen was killed in Florida. But what about the on-going murder of innocent babies daily – where is your ‘fever’ about the millions of aborted babies?!?!?!?

© Carol Clemans – March 2012

Carol Clemans is a Certified Pastoral Counselor/Christian Life Coach/Bible seminar teacher. She provides nationwide counseling by phone & web cam (636) 448-0121. Go to: to order book on marriage and teaching CD’s plus info.


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