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Spiritual Growth – this article written to be published April 2012 –


By: Carol Clemans

What percentage of your youth are staying faithful to God in an intimate relationship with Him by the time they graduate from high school? Recent statistics say that about 40% of middle school kids lose their interest in God and by high school graduation another 40% walk away from the church. By college age, another 10% walk away from church and strong belief in God.

One of the major causes is that we do not have many strong spiritual fathers who are leading their families by word and example. The Bible teaches in Duet. 6 that parents are to teach their children there is one God and to love Him with all of their heart, soul, mind and strength. The teaching is to happen every day – when you get up in the morning, when you walk along the way, when you sit down and when you go to bed at night.

We cannot expect a Sunday school teacher or a youth leader to be responsible for the teaching that we are to do as parents. The research is showing that separating youth from their families and offering entertainment to entice them to come and remain in church is not affective. God did not separate families in the Old Testament or the New Testament. When Jesus taught, there were 5,000 men plus women and children – families sat on the hillsides and listened to Jesus teach for hours. Ephesians 6 teaches children to obey their parents. It also teaches fathers to bring up their children with discipline and instruction that comes from the Lord.

Malachi 4:6 says “preaching will turn the hearts of fathers to their children, and the hearts of children to their father.” (NLT) Families need to sit in church together to hear the preaching of the Word. Then fathers and mothers are to make that Word come alive in the home by example and discussion.

In my book, GOD’S DESIGN FOR MARRIAGE, I have a chapter on parenting that gives instruction how to be the godly example in the home. You can order by sending a $12 check to LEM, INC. 1437 N. Denver Ave., Ste. #251, Loveland, CO 80538.

© Carol Clemans – March 2012


Carol Clemans is a Certified Pastoral Counselor/Christian Life Coach/teaches Bible Christian living principles for churches/conferences. She provides counseling nationwide by phone & web cam – (636) 448-0121. Go to for bio, teaching CD’s, over 100 articles.

Advertisements – March 3, 2012


By: Carol Clemans

The recent testimony before a congress committee by a female student from Georgetown University was blasted over the news several times. She was complaining that contraceptives for female students cost about $3,000 during college years. She was requesting ‘others’ to pay for the contraceptives. She shared how embarrassed one college student was when she had to turn away from a pharmacy counter when she did not have enough money to pay for her contraceptives.

In spite of the above paragraph, this article is not about contraceptives. It’s about the total decay of morals in America. Why is it assumed in today’s world that single female students need contraceptives while they are attending college? Are they going to college to learn how to have sex? Are they providing ‘friend’s benefits’ to guys who could care less? Why do female students allow themselves to be used as sex objects?

In recent years, some major colleges did research on female students who were involved in ‘friend’s benefits’ sex and found those involved in casual sex without commitment were reporting higher rates of depression and suicidal thoughts. What promiscuous females do not understand, it is not possible to have casual sex without feeling an attachment to the male. There is a reason for this and it’s because God created sex between male and female and they become one in body, soul and spirit whether married or not married. So it’s impossible to have casual sex without aftermath issues in body, soul and spirit!

When a male and female have sex they are ‘joined together’ (Bible phrase). When they have multiple partners, they are leaving a piece of themselves with each partner. God created sex to be a ‘gluing together’ of a husband and wife in body, soul and spirit. When this happens outside of marriage, it’s like ripping a part of themselves out of their very soul that can never be replaced. The females especially feel fragmented. They lose sense of self-worth or value because casual sex devalues the person into a sex object that will be used for pleasure then discarded. Having casual sex is about lust not love.

Another point is that everyone a person has sex with is also having sex with everyone that person previously had sex with – this is a medical fact. Contraceptives do not protect a person against STD’s and pregnancies still happen. The emotional havoc of casual sex has life long ramifications. The more sex partners one has, it increases the probability of adultery during marriage and higher divorce rates.

The bottom line: it is still called sin in God’s viewpoint. Fornication includes all types of sexual activities outside of marriage including oral sex, thoughts and desires of the heart. Any activity with the sexual parts of a person is having sex. The Greek word for adultery is ‘porneia’ that is also the root word for pornography. It’s called the works of the flesh in Galatians 5: 19-21. Verse 21b states, “They which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God.” God created the gift of six between a husband and a wife. He intended it for pleasure as well as procreation.

God intended sex for the ‘cementing’ of the relationship. Hollywood has made a joke of sex. Families are allowing their children to see casual sex on TV, movies and DVD’s. People who have morals are scoffed. All through school and into college, virgins are ridiculed. This is outrageous!

Parents, do you really want your children to have sex before marriage? When the majority of Americans had morals, integrity and decency we were a much stronger nation. Now many leaders and famous people who desire to be politically correct have no morals themselves. They condone all sexual activity outside of marriage as acceptable. This is NOT God’s truth. God still does not accept sin choices.

If all believers in the Lord Jesus Christ would raise their voices against immorality, we could make a difference in our world. Many young people today have no one around them who have absolute moral beliefs. They are floundering in their sexual sins and wonder why they have so many emotional and relational problems. Refraining from sex until marriage is still God’s way. God has rules for our provision and protection. If we choose not to follow them, then we reap what we sow and it will be bring pain and heartache for a lifetime. You do not need contraceptives before marriage when you follow God’s design for your life.

© Carol Clemans March 2012


Carol Clemans is a Certified Pastoral Counselor/Christian Life Coach/inspirational Bible teacher. She provides nationwide counseling by phone & web cam (636) 448-0121. Go to: for bio, teaching CD’s & new book: GOD’S DESIGN FOR MARRIAGE – Em:


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