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BY: Carol Clemans

Christmas is over, but certain events revealed the selfishness of many. The Bible says the love of money is the root of all evil. The love of money and what it can buy is fueled by selfishness. This was proven by the sneaker frenzy that took place across the country when Air Jordan offered a limited number of a new design of sneakers for the price of $180.00. In many stores across the nation, security cameras caught the heartless action by would-be buyers who broke down store doors and trampled other people to be the first to get to the limited sneakers on sale. The employees of the stores were terrified of the ‘gang-like’ mentality of the people.

What happened to mutual respect for one another? I believe there are several causes for this type of behavior. Since Roe vs. Wade, America has made it lawful to murder unborn children. Millions of babies have been killed in their mother’s womb – over 4,000 babies are aborted each day in America. This sends a subliminal message that human life has no value. So lack of morals that has its root in selfishness says, “I can have sex any time I want with whomever and if I get pregnant, I can kill the consequences of my action.” That same selfishness tramples others physically and emotionally without any feeling of guilt or wrongdoing.

With the tough economy, people will figure out ways to scam others for money. So someone decides, if I can get a pair of those limited edition sneakers for $180.00, then maybe I could sell them for a $1,000.00 on the Internet. That is based on greed that is rooted in selfishness.

Being selfish is having no consideration for others in pursuit of obtaining what you desire. It’s another definition of being heartless. As a counselor, I see selfishness as the root of all relational problems. It’s me, myself and I. I want my way in everything and I’m going to do whatever makes me feel good!

What most people refuse to accept is that they are acting just like old Lucifer, the devil. His pride and selfishness got him thrown out of Heaven. He wanted to be like God. He wanted the worship of the other angels. God threw him to the earth with the curse of eternal damnation. The sneaker frenzy is rooted in the same heartless selfishness.

Jesus came to earth in a robe of flesh to bring peace on earth and goodwill to all men. Our actions tell others whether we are following in Jesus’ footsteps or in the devil’s footsteps. I’m determined to follow peace and goodwill and not the sneaker frenzy.

Carol Clemans is a Cert. Pastoral Counselor/Christian Life Coach/nationwide speaker. She provides nationwide counseling by phone & web cam (636) 448-0121. Go to: for teaching CD’s and new book: GOD’S DESIGN FOR MARRIAGE.


Relational Growth – (written for PERSPECTIVES – Jan. 2012 issue)

Counseling = Helping Ministry

Carol Clemans

I thank Bishop Kenneth Haney for believing in the ministry God led me into through education in becoming a Certified Pastoral Counselor. Pastor Haney agreed to allow me to provide a counseling ministry for Christian Life Center in Stockton, CA., in 1992, after graduating from the Institute of Christian Counseling (a 2 year college program integrating counseling principles through the Word of God).For the last ten years that Kenneth Haney was pastor of CLC, I provided counseling for the church. I also taught six years at Christian Life College under Dr. Dan Segraves – one subject being: Principles of Counseling.

Through my writing monthly for the Perspectives, readers started calling me asking for phone counseling across the nation. I now offer phone and web cam counseling nationwide for individuals and pastors. I am part of for the UPCI. Through, I have worked with pastors in joint counseling their membership in the privacy of the pastor’s office.

Life Enrichment Ministries, Inc. is a non-profit (501c3) ministry. Pastors Dan Batchelor and Todd Gaddy are on my Board of Directors. It is my mission to provide Bible teaching, counseling and written materials to help others grow spiritually, emotionally and relationally.

We have ‘walking wounded’ people coming to our churches weekly who have received their salvation experience with the Lord, but still have emotional pain from their past or present that robs their joy of the Lord. Abuse of all types, pornography addictions, broken relationships, etc., are a part of their life and they need godly counsel through God’s Word on how to heal from the pain and to walk in victory. God removes our sins at salvation, but He does not remove our memories or emotions.

The good news is that He did come to heal the broken hearted and to set the captives free from their ‘stinkin thinkin’ through His Word! I have posted over 90 articles on my website: that share my heartbeat for this ministry. My new book: GOD’S DESIGN FOR MARRIAGE can be ordered by sending a $12 check to LEM, INC, 1437 N. Denver Ave., Ste. #251, Loveland, CO 80538 or – acct. – – email shipping address.


Carol Clemans is a Certified Pastoral Counselor/Christian Life Coach/inspirational Bible speaker for churches/conferences. She provides counseling nationwide by phone/web cam – (636) 448-0121. Rev. Harold & Carol Clemans are part of Pastor Dieter Skowron’s church in Johnstown, CO.

Pornography – The ‘Silent’ Killer

Carol Clemans

Addiction to pornography can happen with one 20-minute exposure. I heard this stated by experts in the field on a Focus on the Family program a few years ago. In my 19 years of being a certified pastoral counselor, I’ve had to work with many people who are addicted to pornography. I call it the ‘silent’ killer because it’s a subject the church does not like to deal with. But this addiction kills the person’s relationship with God, self, and others.

The experts say it is the most destructive addiction one can have even above other drug or alcohol abuse in the fight to recover and be victorious. The reason is because the addicted person who ‘acts out’ while viewing pornography is producing a self-induced chemical high that is more powerfully addicting than any other substance that creates an insatiable desire.

This addiction ‘kills’ marriages. The images engraved in the memory of the user of porn do not leave. The users have told me that the porn images are constantly on their mind. Porn addiction consumes every waking hour. This addiction steals the person’s soul. The time invested in the addiction needs to be the time invested in a relationship with God and others.

Because porn is available through the Internet, lay men/women, pastors and children can find and use it. The addiction must be exposed. The addicted person needs an accountability partner (not spouse). He/she needs Bible based counseling for spiritual healing and helping them understand how they have destroyed their marriage relationship and how to build it on godly principles. I address this subject in my book GOD’S DESIGN FOR MARRIAGE in the chapter “Protect the Sexual Purity of Your Marriage” including references for healing.

Order by sending $12 check to LEM, INC. 1437 N. Denver Ave. Ste. #251, Loveland, CO 80538.

Carol Clemans is a Cert. Pastoral Counselor/Christian Life Coach/inspirational Bible teacher for conferences. She provides counseling nationwide by phone & web cam (636) 448-0121. Go to: for additional products and bio info. – 12/5/11


By: Carol Clemans

This year some merchants had Christmas decorations up before Halloween! I know the economy is very sluggish, but trying to sell Christmas before Halloween was stretching things just a little! What does Christmas mean to you and your family?

I’m thankful that I was taught the true meaning of Christmas. It’s a celebration of the birth of our great God and Saviour, Jesus Christ. God manifested in the flesh. It’s not about the date. It’s about the event. I Timothy 3: 16 (NKJ) states, “And without controversy great is the mystery of godliness: God was manifested in the flesh, Justified in the Spirit, Seen by angels, Preached among the Gentiles, Believed on in the world, Received up in glory.” This is the reason for Christmas.

Because Adam and Eve chose to disobey God’s command in the Garden of Eden, they suffered a broken relationship with their Creator. Their disobedience brought a curse of natural death upon the human race without a hope for eternal life. Since God knows all things, He planned before the foundation of the world for a Saviour to be born to redeem those who desired a right relationship with Him. He gave Adam and Eve choice in the beginning and He still gives each of us a choice today.

The world has turned Christmas into a commercial celebration – selling, buying and giving man made gifts that will eventually all deteriorate, wear out, be thrown out or replaced with new stuff. God came in the flesh as a gift to mankind to redeem them back to Himself for eternity.

For God so loved the world that HE gave. God is love. His gift of salvation through the birth, life, death, burial and resurrection of the Lord Jesus Christ is still alive today and will give us eternal life with Him if we accept it. The book of Acts shares this gift in detail. I pray that you give the gift of Jesus to your family. “His name shall be called Emmanuel, God with us.”Jesus gave His life on Calvary to purchase our salvation. We all need His gift of salvation. This is what Christmas means to me.


Carol Clemans is a Certified Pastoral Counselor/Christian Life Coach/inspirational Bible seminar speaker for churches/conferences. She provides counseling nationwide by phone & web cam – (636) 448-0121. Her new book, GOD’S DESIGN FOR MARRIAGE, is available through her website:


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