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FATHERS!  – LOVE AS GOD LOVES!

FATHER:  A man who gives continuous care to a child.

 

Our HEAVENLY FATHER is the best example of ‘fathering’.  For God so loved the world that HE GAVE! HE was willing to put on a robe of flesh and sacrifice HIS life for our salvation because HE loved us! Fathers are to love with that same sacrificial love.

 

Fathers, you are the first ‘god with skin on’ that your children will know.  How they perceive God, their heavenly Father, will be defined by your example in the home. Fathers need to be loving, caring, kind, easily entreated. Children flocked to Jesus when He was here on earth because they could feel His loving gentleness and acceptance.

 

Fathers, you are the ‘priest or pastor’ of your home. Children learn by your example. Children will learn honesty, caring, and kindness by watching how you love and care for them and their mother. Discipline in love, not in anger.

You are to teach your children godly principles when you wake up in the morning, when you walk along the way, when you sit down and when you go to bed – Deut. 6th chapter – use life’s experiences. “What’s the godly thing to do?”

 

As a Father, the greatest gift you can give to your children is to love their Mother with an unselfish love.  Live with your wife according to knowledge (1 Pet.3:7) – her knowledge – tap into her needs, desires and dreams.  As you help her to become the woman of God she desires to be, your children’s lives will be blessed in learning how to have a God-centered marriage and your desires will be fulfilled.

 

We need fathers who will say to their children from a sincere heart as Paul said to the church, “Follow me as I follow Christ.” (1 Cor. 11:1) Spend time with each child. Have dates with your daughters and join in your son’s favorite activity.

 

If you spend time planting godly seeds into your children’s hearts, when they get old – no matter how far they may stray from home or God – the godly truths you planted into their hearts will never leave them. (Prov. 22:6 – Train up a child).

 

Your children have souls that will live eternally.  How you father your children will have one of the greatest impacts on the their desire & decision to choose to love and serve God.

 

I’m thankful for my godly father’s example that created a desire in me to want my own personal relationship with God. I believe parents, both mother and father, will give an account to God how we influenced our children when we stand before Him.

I want God to say, “Well done thou good and faithful servant.”

 

May God bless every father here today as you serve your Heavenly Father!!

© Carol Clemans – June 2011

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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http://www.greeleygazette.com – June 14, 2011 (Written for Greeley Gazette – Greeley, CO)

FATHERS, YOUR CHILDREN NEED YOU!

 

By: Carol Clemans

carol@carolclemans.org

 

Father’s Day can be a happy celebration or a day of painful memories and experiences.  God ordained family to be a father, mother and children.  God gives easy instructions to raise children in the fear and admonition of the Lord. The word ‘fear’ means to understand the greatness of God and His mighty power. ‘Admonition’ means to teach God’s values and morals.

Fathers are the first ‘God with skin on’ that children experience. If you are a kind, loving, considerate Daddy, your children will have a much easier time connecting with their heavenly Father as they grow in knowledge of HIM. If you are a father who is harsh, abusive, selfish and uncaring, your children will perceive God in the same manner.  Of course, there is a full spectrum in between the two described.

Ephesians 6:4 tells fathers to not provoke your children to wrath. I’ve witnessed fathers who verbally abuse their children. This will automatically create rebellion in the heart of a child.  The secret to being a healthy father is to create a loving relationship with your children.  “Rules without relationship leads to rebellion” – quote from Josh McDowell.

A healthy relationship takes time. Children will learn by your actions your priorities in life. God must be number one in your life.  Children will know by your conduct.  If you love your children with the love of the Lord, this will set the foundation for their understanding God’s love.  When they see you going to church regularly and then living out Godly principles in your life toward them, their mother and others, they will learn the love of God.

Every child has a soul that will live in eternity. A father’s example will have a profound influence on how each child chooses to live his/her life.  We all are accountable to God for our own thoughts, feelings and actions whether we are a believer or not.  In the future, every knee will bow and every tongue will confess that Jesus Christ is Lord.

I’m thankful for my father’s godly example of life that created a desire in me to want my own personal relationship with God.  I believe parents, both mother and father, will give an account to God how we influenced our children when we stand before God.  I want God to say, “Well done thou good and faithful servant.”

 

Carol Clemans is a Certified Pastoral Counselor/Christian Life Coach/inspirational Bible teacher for churches/conferences. She provides counseling nationwide by phone or web cam (636) 448-0121 – http://www.carolclemans.org

 

 


http://www.ladiesminstries.org – June 2011 (Written for HOPE section – dealing with divorce issues)

 

BE FAITHFUL TO GOD

 

By: Carol Clemans

 

The current news about unfaithful politicians to their marriages is extremely disturbing to me.  I know betrayal of wedding vows has been happening for centuries, but it is still sin in God’s sight. Whether you are going through a divorce or recovering from one, betrayal of committed love is one of the most painful experiences of life.  These public examples that are in every news venue are not helping our children viewing good examples.

What are you doing to help your children with their value system when it comes to helping them understand how to be a future faithful spouse? I have counseled adult children of divorce. They share that trusting others is very difficult when their own parent betrayed their mother/father and them. Children are shocked beyond understanding usually at very young ages.

As the faithful parent, one of the most important tasks you have is to instill in your children that faithfulness to God in every aspect of life promotes faithfulness in a marriage.  Children must be taught that each of us is responsible to God for our own thoughts, feelings and actions. To prevent betrayal to a marriage is to be faithful to God.  When one is faithful to God – loving HIM with all our heart, soul, mind and strength – there will be no betrayal to a marriage.

When David of the O.T. was confronted with his betrayal, his first response was, “I’ve sinned against the Lord!”  This is what he should have remembered at the time of his adultery.  Joseph proved is faithfulness to God when he was tempted by Potiphar’s wife. As he ran away from her, he told her, “I cannot sin against the Lord!”

No matter how you were betrayed, you are able through the power of the Holy Ghost to be faithful to God in every area of your life and teach your children about genuine faithfulness to God.  Refuse to believe that divorce will hinder your ability to influence your children for godliness.  Now is your special privilege of turning your children’s hearts closer to the Lord.  Man may fail, but God never fails.

Many children are raised going to church but are not taught by example how to have a daily intimate relationship with God.  The survival secret of recovery from divorce is being faithful to God.  Yes, it will be tough as a single parent, but you can do it.  When we feel our weakest, God makes us strong by our turning to Him and His truth for comfort and guidance.

Reassure your children that you will never leave nor forsake God or them. Everyone has a choice to do what is right.  When a person makes a conscious choice to betray their spouse and children, they are also betraying God.

As the faithful parent, you will have a tremendous opportunity to show by your example what genuine faithfulness to God is in action. Make faithfulness to God your primary goal and God will give you the strength and wisdom to parent your children in faithfulness unto Him.

 

Carol Clemans is a Certified Pastoral Counselor/Christian Life Coach/inspirational Bible teacher for churches & conferences. She provides nationwide counseling by phone and webcam – (636) 448-0121 – carol@carolclemans.org.

Carol writes for http://www.firstladiesministries.wordpress.com, http://www.greeleygazette.com (Editorial – Carol’s Corner) and http://www.ibcperspectives.com. She is president of LIFE ENRICHMENT MINISTRIES, INC. 1437 N. Denver Avenue, Ste. #251, Loveland, CO 80538.

Pastors Dan Batchelor and Todd Gaddy are on her Bd of Dirs.  Go to: http://www.carolclemans.org  to order teaching CD’s. Over 80 articles are posted for spiritual, emotional and relational growth. Carol and husband, Rev. Harold Clemans, are part of Pastor Dieter Skowron’s church in Johnstown, CO.

 


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carol@carolclemans.org

 

PASTORS: Helps for Bride & Groom

 

Carol Clemans

June is a traditional month for weddings.  Much preparation, time and effort will be put into the plans for this grand event. How much time is spent on equipping the Bride and Groom for their life-long marriage? I recommend six to eight pre-marital counseling sessions plus required reading listed below.

The euphoria of ‘being in love’ can dissipate very quickly if a newly married couple does not receive healthy God-based counsel and information on how to have a God-centered marriage.  A healthy marriage means laying down individual selfishness and becoming ‘one flesh’ in body, soul and spirit.

The pre-marital ‘baggage’ of divorce, sexual abuse aftermath, pre-marital sex, etc., all needs to be faced and processed through God’s healing before marriage takes place. Yes, we must deal with these issues today in the church. Rec. reading:  Healing for Damaged Emotions -David Seamands, The Door of Hope – Jan Frank and

Too Close Too Soon – Jim Talley & Robbie Reed.

Marriage is work-work-work! The key to a healthy marriage is Ephesians 5:21 “Submitting to one another in the fear of God.” When a husband loves his wife as Christ loved the church and gave Himself for her, no godly woman can resist that kind of loving man! As we submit to Christ because of His love, a wife will arrange herself under the loving authority of her husband because of his kindness and consideration of her needs and desires.

The following books are ‘must reads’ for the Bride & Groom:

Saving Your Marriage Before it Starts – Drs. Les & Leslie Parrott

Hidden Keys to a Loving Lasting Marriage – Gary Smalley

Before You Say I Do – H. Norman Wright

The First Years of Forever – H. Norman Wright

Communication: Key to Your Marriage – H. Norman Wright

Intended for Pleasure – Dr. Ed Wheat

These books should be read within six months before the marriage. Counseling sessions should be planned around the issues of these books.  The decision for a marriage partner is the second most important decision of a lifetime after salvation.  Yet, very little preparation or knowledge is required which leads to marital conflict almost from the beginning of the marriage.

Pastors, as shepherds of your flock, please equip couples for a God-centered marriage and it will save much heartache in their future. (I teach pre-marital/marriage seminars for churches).

 

Carol Clemans is a Certified Pastoral Counselor/Christian Life Coach/inspirational Bible teacher for churches/conferences. She provides nationwide phone/webcam counseling (636) 448-0121. Go to: http://www.carolclemans.org for CD’s. Pres. of LIFE ENRICHMENT MINISTRIES, INC. (501c3), 1437 N. Denver Ave. Ste. 251, Loveland, CO 80538

 

 

 

 

 

http://www.greeleygazette.com – June 7, 2011

 

IMMORAL POLITICIANS SHOULD RESIGN

 

By: Carol Clemans

http://www.carolclemans.org

 

We are hit in the news again this week with a well-known politician who is an immoral person proven through his actions!! Some people are saying, “We’ve had immoral politicians throughout history – so what?”  Here’s the ‘so what’: if a politician is immoral and a liar in his personal life, how can he be trusted to make the best moral and beneficial decisions with his votes and influence for his constituency and society in general?

This latest one has a sexual addiction that is proven by his actions. Sexting partially nude pictures of himself to others is proof of the sickness of his soul. God only knows all of his immoral actions. This man has sinned against God, his wife, himself and all others effected by his stupidity and selfishness. If a man lies about his personal life, he is a prime candidate for bribery in politics.  Any man who is consumed by his sexual addition cannot be a man of character in his personal or professional life.

The devil uses the lust of the eye, the lust of the flesh and the pride of life to destroy people. These immoral politicians are putty in the hands of Satan. If they can betray their wives with physical adultery, emotional adultery, sexting, porn addiction, etc., how can they be trusted at any level? Sin is sin.  There is still right and wrong from God’s perspective and that will never change!  We as a nation of people must speak up against immorality.

Enoch was the seventh generation from Adam. He preached to his generation about their ungodly ways and deeds.  We need some modern day Enochs who are not afraid to speak against sin to all men. God help the future of America if our children see these men who are well known seemingly ‘get by’ with their despicable, repugnant sinful actions.  This current man should resign his public position and seek help for his sick soul.

 

Carol Clemans is a Cert. Pastoral Counselor/Christian Life Coach/ inspirational Bible seminar teacher. She provides nationwide counseling by phone (636) 448-0121 and web cam. Go to: http://www.carolclemans.org for teaching CD’s and bio.

 

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