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BY: Carol Clemans


I’m celebrating Memorial Day weekend in California with family and friends. We Americans are so blessed to live in a nation with freedom to worship God and live our lives to glorify God.  My thanks today goes to all the service men and women who have fought for our freedoms since we became a nation in the past, present and future.

Many come to our nation and want to change our laws to fit their views.  I say, “If you want to change our laws then go back to the country you came from.  Please don’t try to change our laws to take away our freedom.”  Our country was built on morals and values and they seem to be slipping away. I’m praying for America today because it seems the prevailing atmosphere is that anything goes. But that is not the godly view.  When a nation forsakes God’s values and morals they are always headed for destruction.

I’m praying that all believers in God will pray for our nation and its leaders. God can change the hearts of kings and He can also do the same for our elected leaders. We need men and women leading our nation that have morals and values and will allow them to influence their decisions in their leadership.

Our life is a story we are writing everyday. What story will your life tell? I think of the stories of all the service people who have fought for our nation. They have families, parents, spouses, children and siblings that they have sacrificially left to protect our nations freedoms.  Some give their lives, others return injured and others come home physically safe, but mentally wounded.

We need to pray daily for these men and women who are bravely defending our freedoms. We need to reach out to their families and let them know we appreciate their sacrifice. Their life is a story of sacrifice; ours should be a story of support and prayers for them.

When we all stand before God, the story of our life will be the deciding factor where we spend eternity.  I want my life’s story to please the Lord and He will say, “Well done, good and faithful servant; you were faithful over a few things, I will make you ruler over many things. Enter into the joy of your Lord.”


Carol Clemans is a Cert. Pastoral Counselor, Christian Life Coach, inspirational Bible teacher for churches/conferences. She provides counseling nationwide by phone & web cam (636) 448-0121 –

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By: Carol Clemans

The betrayal of divorce is one of the most painful events that can happen in life. The survivors have told me they think it’s worse than the death of a spouse.  If a spouse dies in a loving marriage, there is deep grief. But there are sweet memories of the years together. Betrayal is not a grief issue in death. The dying spouse did not have a choice.  The pain of divorce comes from the choice to betray the love and commitment to marriage that was made before God and man.

When the truth is first revealed of a betrayal to a marriage, it feels like a strong tornado emotionally. Your life as you know it is blown to bits especially when children are involved.  Your whole lifestyle is lost. God does hate divorce, but He knew divorce and betrayal was going to happen. He promised to heal the brokenhearted, bind up the wounded and set the captives free. He will give you strength to go through each day one day at a time.

Even through divorce, God defines you as His special treasure. You are a daughter of the King. There is no reason to feel shame. You must reach out and allow your family, friends and church family to be supportive to you.  You have to regroup your thoughts about your future and pray for provision and guidance. Seek the appropriate legal counsel to help you with the best decision for your children’s provision and protection within the circumstances.

One young divorced mother refused to allow their family to be called a ‘broken family.’ Yes, a husband betrayed and walked away from his responsibility under God to love and cherish. But she said, “We are not a broken family.  We are intact by the help of the Lord. We are whole in the Lord’s love and provision.”

Your children must be encouraged to know that they are special in the sight of God.  He is their Heavenly Father. When a birth father walks away, this can shake the foundation of a child’s belief and trust in God.  God’s truth is that HE will never leave nor forsake you.  Make a major effort to have strong Christian faithful men be in the lives of your children through uncles, grandfathers, etc.

Churches need to step up and fill in the gap of missing fathers. Single parent families need to be integrated into a healthy family with two parents to be supportive to the single parent.

You may have a broken heart, but you are not a broken person. That is a lie from the devil.  You still are whole and complete in the sight of God. God fully loves you and accepts you.  Romans 8 says nothing (NO THING) or event or person shall separate you from the love of God!  God is the restorer of the broken heart.  God will eventually bring good out of the evil that has been done against you.

Reading the stories of others who have survived by the help of the Lord is something good to do. Recommended reading:

WHEN I DO BECOMES I DON’T: Practical Steps During Separation and Divorce by David C. Cook

RADICAL RECOVERY: Transforming the Despair of Your Divorce Into An Unexpected Good – Suzy Brown

You were a CHILD OF THE KING before betrayal and divorce and you are still a CHILD OF THE KING after divorce. As you walk through the valley of change, keep looking unto Jesus who is the Author and Finisher of your faith!

Carol Clemans is a Certified Pastoral Counselor/Christian Life Coach/inspirational Bible teacher. She provides counseling nationwide by phone and web cam – (636) 448-0121. Go to: for teaching CD’s – info and over 70 articles written from the Word of God. Carol & her husband, Rev. Harold E. Clemans, are part of Pastor Dieter Skowron’s church in Johnstown, CO. She is president of LIFE ENRICHMENT MINISTRIES, INC. (501c3), 1437 N. Denver Ave. Ste. 251, Loveland, CO 80538. Email:


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