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By: Carol Clemans

Each child that is born on this earth has a soul that will live forever. This fact made a tremendous impact on me at the birth of my two children.  The miracle of the birth was overwhelming in itself. When I saw my firstborn daughter, Joe’l, in the arms of her father immediately after birth, tears flowed from my eyes. I looked at this little bundle of human flesh and knew that some day in her future she would stand before the Almighty God. I felt the same responsibility at the birth of our son, Jonathan, born four years later.

Our children would either stand before God in complete acceptance, love and mercy or they would be standing before God to be judged. It was our responsibility as parents to teach them who created them and who loved them so much to die on a cross to pay the penalty of sin.

Many children battle with low-self worth.  God’s truth is a foundation that heals the wounded spirit. Isaiah, a prophet in the Old Testament, shared God’s truth in the 44th chapter. He tells us that the Lord formed our inward parts and covered us in our mother’s womb. The Lord let Isaiah know that He was the King of Israel, and his Redeemer. The Lord said, “I am the First and I am the Last; besides Me there is no God.”

Isaiah wrote: “Thus says the Lord, your Redeemer, and He who formed you from the womb: I am the Lord, who makes all things, who stretches out the heavens all alone, who spreads abroad the earth by Myself.”  God created Adam and Eve after His own image. We are all descendents from this first creation of the human race. Please don’t let society teach your children they are descendents from monkeys. If this were true, monkeys would still be evolving into humans. You don’t have to be a scientist to figure this out.

Psalms 139 lets us know that God was in our mother’s womb and formed our inward parts.  God has custom designed each one of us. There is no greater wisdom for our children to learn than who God is and who created them. The question is asked, “What doth it profit a man if he gain the whole world and lose his own soul?”

Introduce your children to their Creator!

Carol Clemans is a Certified Pastoral Counselor/Christian Life Coach/inspirational Bible speaker. She provides counseling nationwide by phone or web cam (636) 448-0121. Go to: for over 70 articles & teaching CD’s.



By: Carol Clemans

At the writing of this article, the royal wedding in England is about to happen.  In observing the stories and the frenzy of all the happenings, it was interesting to find out that when the mother of the bride was caught chewing gum at a royal event; the royal family was highly offended.  This was the conduct of a commoner, not someone close to royalty.

This turned my thinking to conduct that I see in churches today.  It is so different than when I was growing up.  I observe people chomping on gum throughout a whole church service – even on the platform. Young children are allowed by their parents to wander in and out of the church service without supervision. Before church starts, instead of being a ‘house of prayer,’ everyone is talking and laughing as if it was just a social setting.  Some come to church so casually dressed you would never guess church was their destination.

Please let me explain.  I was raised in a ‘home missions’ church with my father being the pastor. He received his salvation experience in 1925 at age 15. He raised us in church to highly respect the House of God because that was how he was raised.  When we entered church, we knelt down at a prayer altar inviting the presence of God into the service before it started.

My mother was a talented seamstress.  She made our clothes. We had church clothes and everyday clothes. We wore our ‘best’ to church.  They were not expensive, but always neat and clean. Church was the ‘most dressed up’ place that we went. There was a spirit of respect and awe about going to church to worship the Lord.  This was not just the atmosphere of our church, but also other churches that we visited that included conferences.

With the ‘royals,’ it seems that their protocol has remained very much the same for decades.  Anyone who has a meeting with the Queen dresses in his/her best.  They learn how to ‘curtsey’ in a proper way. They must learn the expected conduct when they are in the Queen’s presence.

We, as followers of Christ, have taught that we should not allow society to change our conduct. Yet, as the world has become more casual about every part of their lives from morals to how they dress for all occasions, the church has followed in their footsteps. This casualness has also crept into our attitudes and actions in church.

The Bible teaches that all things should be done ‘decently and in order.’ I was taught to love God with my whole heart, soul, mind and strength (body). This included my conduct in every day life and my conduct in the House of God.  We are the ‘temple’ of the Holy Ghost.  My actions should always reflect His glory.

As I was taught as a child to love and respect the House of God by what I wore and my actions, I will continue to do so.  It’s not about the price of the clothes, but we should be willing to dress in our best to come before the King of Kings in worship. If we would do the same for the Queen of England, why shouldn’t we do it for the Lord? It is proven, the more relaxed and casual the attire of someone, the more casual they are in attitude.

I never want to have a ‘casual attitude’ about God in any way.  The Bible teaches we are to glorify God in our bodies. That is by both our actions and how we clothe ourselves for every occasion.

We need to teach our children how to respect the House of God by our own actions. Talk about it at home. Deut. 6 tells parents to talk about the Lord when you wake up in the morning, when you walk along the way, when you sit down and when you lay down at night. When your children observe your love and respect for God in everyday life, teaching them how to respect the House of God will make sense to them.

(c) Carol Clemans – April 2011


Carol Clemans

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  • Christian Author – APRIL 18, 2011


By: Carol Clemans

When God created Adam & Eve, He said, “They shall be one flesh.” This was the first marriage on earth.  This ‘one flesh’ means to be united physically and spiritually. It is a body, soul, and spirit connection. The gift of sex is from God, not Hollywood!

When sex happens outside of a committed marriage the same body, soul, spirit connection takes place. Within marriage, it’s a wonderful blessing.  Outside of marriage, the same connection happens but there is a destructive aftermath. It’s like gluing two boards together then trying to tear them apart. The glued boards will never come apart as one piece again. They will be torn and fragmented because the sex act outside of marriage is an ‘ungodly soul tie.’

In my 19 years of counseling, I’ve witnessed this with victims of sexual abuse and people who are promiscuous. I have read studies done by colleges where there are co-ed dorms and ‘friend’s benefit’ sex is acceptable. Even if a male and female agree to have sex for pleasure only, God’s creative connection still happens even though it is not within the boundaries of marriage. The college studies have proven that a majority of the females involved in ‘friend’s benefit’ sex become depressed and many feel suicidal.  They feel used, damaged, worthless, etc., because the soul connection happens and when they are ‘thrown aside’ for a new sexual partner, they become torn and fragmented physically, emotionally, relationally and spiritually.

God brings good news to these fragmented people. God loves everyone. He wants everyone to be saved and healed emotionally, spiritually and relationally. All He asks is for a heart-felt repentance through the power of salvation (Acts 2:38). Ask God to cut the ‘ungodly soul ties’ of past sexual abuse/sins and when done with a sincere repentant heart, God comes in with the healing. When sex is reserved for marriage only as God created, your life will be blessed. (Share this with your teens.)

Carol Clemans is a Certified Pastoral Counselor/Christian Life Coach/inspirational Bible seminar speaker. She provides nationwide phone/web cam confidential counseling (636) 448-0121 –

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By: Carol Clemans

The Internet is an unbelievable invention.  I do not begin to understand how it works, but I’m thankful for it because I use it for my ministry of writing, counseling and teaching.  But the Internet has a dark side and every parent needs to be aware. Whether you are a divorced or intact family, the parent/parents need to be on their toes regarding the use of a computer in the home.

There are social networks such as and  Some quickly disparage all use of the Internet, but that is not wise. I’m on –  (Carol Theobald Clemans). I use it to talk about the Lord, beautiful Colorado and my grandkids. There are chat rooms, Google search and many other things that can be dangerous for children/teens if not supervised. You need to install an Internet protection program against pornography.

Children/teens have the ability to understand the workings of a computer much easier than adults. One way to be able to connect with your children regarding the computer is ask for their advice about how different programs work.  Get them to show you how to use iChat, instant message, etc. The computer in a home needs to be kept in the family area. Do not allow children to have a computer in their bedrooms.

Many of the chat rooms that are supposed to be teens chatting to each other have adult predators pretending they are teens.  They ask all types of questions getting to know the innocent teen. The teen will start giving information where the predator can locate the teen, etc. If the teen is vulnerable and in need of attention the family or extended family is not providing, they are very susceptible to the predator’s influence.

Parenting is the toughest job in the world especially if you are a single parent. But parents must monitor the use of the computer continually. Allow the computer to be a tool of interaction with your child no matter what age.  The computer is part of life today. Get to know the computer with the help of your child/teen. Teach them to set boundaries for its use.

The Internet has many websites available for studying and learning. Learn the computer and what the Internet has to offer along side your children and then you will be able to protect them from the misuse and possible danger of this modern technology.

Carol Clemans is a Certified Pastoral Counselor/Christian Life Coach/ inspirational Bible teacher. She provides counseling nationwide by phone/web cam – (636) 448-0121 –



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