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http://www.greeleygazette.com – February 7, 2011

 

GRIEF IS A PART OF LIFE

 

Carol Clemans

 

As newborn babes, we cry and someone comes running to take care of our needs. We grow up in a ‘gimme-gimme, take-take world.’ We love getting, but we are not taught how to lose anything.  Grief comes with the loss of people, things and relationships.  All of us will experience grief in our lives.

I have had five people close to me die. My parents were at the ages of 85 and 93.  That grief was more expectant because they were older. I loved them dearly and miss them extremely. Then as I shared in a previous article, I’ve had three close friends go to heaven in 1989, 1995 and January 2011. The first comfort comes from God’s promise: “Blessed are they that mourn for they shall be comforted.” When we know our loved ones are with the Lord, we have a promise to be with them throughout eternity.

It’s appointed unto man once to die. Our life is like a vapor – here one moment and gone the next. We grieve for ourselves.  I’ve processed my grief through prayer to the Lord sharing my gut feelings. God fully understands. Journaling in prayer to God and sharing emotions as you write to your loved ones are processes to deal with grief. I journal my feelings in a letter form to those who have died.  It makes me feel connected.

My last friend who died battled cancer for two years.  I called her almost daily as we lived 850 miles apart. We wrote emails and shared on facebook.com along with our daily chats. My toughest grief is the urge to call her and then instantly realizing she’s with the Lord.  I don’t grieve for her. She has the victory!  I grieve for myself. When we have a relationship with God, our grief is not hopeless.

Our most important thing we can do for our children is to introduce them to a relationship with God when they are young. We don’t have a promise of tomorrow, but we do have the opportunity to know God. He is our hope in our time of grief.

 

Carol Clemans is a Cert. Pastoral Counselor/Christian Life Coach/inspirational Bible seminar speaker. She provides counseling nationwide by phone/web cam – (636) 448-0121 – http://www.carolclemans.org

 

 

 


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http://www.greeleygazette.com – January 31, 2011

 

“A FRIEND LOVETH AT ALL TIMES”

 

By: Carol Clemans

 

A genuine friendship is truly a gift from God.  It takes a person with an unselfish heart to be a close true friend.  I say there are friends, friends, and then genuine friends. Some will call an acquaintance a friend. Some will call a co-worker or neighbor a friend, yet they share nothing personal on a continual basis.

I have been blessed to have a handful of very close friends.  A friend that loves at all times knows how to love unconditionally.  This type of friendship is built over time usually by common interests and especially in sharing our deep relationships with God.

Three of my closest friends are now in heaven. The first was at the age of 42 in 1989. Leah was a mother of three young daughters. She was in college to become a lawyer. Our oldest daughters were good friends and met in a Sunday school class. We both had been PK (preacher’s kids) kids.  Leah was compassionate and had a heart to help others.

Gloria was 53 in 1995. She was a mother & grandmother who loved people who were real because she was real. While she was fighting lung cancer, she supported me through my father’s illness and death to non-Hodgkin’s cancer. Gloria came to visit my father several times in support to me. She also attended his funeral. Seven weeks later she went to the Lord and I was speaking at her funeral on my 25th wedding anniversary.

On January 16, 2011, my third close friend, Judy, went to the Lord. We were going to celebrate our 65th birthdays in February and March. We’ve known each other for 28 years. We were both involved in ministry.  Her love and laughter had touched thousands of peoples’ lives personally and through her writings.

Genuine friendships are treasures. We can be open and honest with each other. We share our ups and downs. We encourage each other in our faith and relationship with the Lord. We had to make time for each other. Close friendships don’t just happen.

At Judy’s burial, I shared the scripture, “A friend loveth at all times.” Please take time to make close friends. It’s better to have loved and lost than to not have loved at all.  This is only a temporary separation from my friends. We have the joyful promise to meet in heaven where love is everlasting.

 

 

Carol Clemans is a Cert. Pastoral Counselor/Christian Life Coach/inspirational Bible seminar speaker. She provides nationwide counseling by phone/web cam – (636) 448-0121  – http://www.carolclemans.org

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Judy Segraves a Prov. 31 Woman

 

Carol Clemans

 

On January 16, 2011, my dear friend, Judy Segraves, went to the arms of God. She is the wife of Dr. Daniel Segraves who is the Academic/Administration Dean at UGST in Florissant, MO. God brought the Segraves into our lives when they were invited to come to Stockton, CA to be the Executive Vice President of Christian Life College in 1982. Bishop Kenneth Haney asked me to have the Segraves to our home for dinner. We enjoyed our first meeting and dinner together.

About four days later, Judy’s mother, who moved with them, died in her sleep with a heart attack.  It was a shock to Judy and family. We opened our home for their guests to come to after the funeral. Our friendship was a gift from God.

Judy was the modern day Proverbs 31 virtuous woman. Vs 10-12  (NLT) – “Who can find a virtuous and capable wife? (Dan Segraves found one). Her husband can trust her, and she will greatly enrich his life. She brings him good, not harm all the days of her life.” Vs 17 – “She is energetic and strong, a hard worker.” Vs 25 – “She is clothed with strength and dignity.” Vs 26&27 – “When she speaks, her words are wise, (humorous) and she gives instructions with kindness. She carefully watches everything in her household.” Vs 28 – “Her children stand and bless her. Her husband praises her.”

Judy was my genuine friend.  We lived in Missouri together for two years. We shared our ups and downs of life for 28 years and loved each other unconditionally. In her two-year battle with cancer, I called her almost daily after we moved to Colorado with prayer and encouraging words. She talked about the process, but never complained.

Judy could say, “I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, and I have remained faithful.”  Now she awaits her crown of righteousness. THERE IS NO GREATER FAITH!

 

Carol Clemans is a Cert. Pastoral Counselor/Christian Life Coach/anointed Bible seminar speaker for spiritual, emotional & relational growth for conferences, etc.

She provides nationwide phone/web cam counseling (636) 448-0121. Carol is founder of LIFE ENRICHMENT MINISTRIES, INC. (501c3), 1437 N Denver Ave., Ste. 251, Loveland, CO 80538 – http://www.carolclemans.org

 


First Ladies – for March 2011

 

BE A WOMAN OF GODLY CHARACTER

 

By: Carol Clemans

 

Attention, Ladies!! I want to let you in on a little secret that will make you all feel a whole lot better. The Proverbs 31 woman can be very intimidating at first glance.  This woman is virtuous and capable. She is more precious than rubies. Her husband trusts her and she will enrich his life. She will be his helpmeet. She knits, sews and crochets. This woman goes shopping with coupons and saves hundreds of dollars. This ‘morning person’ gets up before dawn and makes her family breakfast.

After making breakfast, she plans the day’s work for her servant girls. (I’ve told my husband when he gets me servant girls, I will call him, Lord! – smile). This talented woman is in to real estate. She buys a field and plants a vineyard. She makes the clothes for her family and dresses like royalty.  Her husband sits in the city council meeting with the other leaders.

It’s time to stop and tell you the secret.  I’ve done some study on this scripture passage and found that some commentaries say this Proverbs 31 woman is a composite of ideal womanhood.  When you read Proverbs 31:1, it lets you know that King Lemuel is sharing in this passage what his mother taught him about what he needs to seek in a godly woman for a future wife. No one woman did all these things. It was not what she did, but what she is that mattered most. She is clothed with strength and dignity as a result of her reverence for God. Her attractiveness comes entirely from her character. She speaks words of wisdom and is full of kindness toward others. A woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised. Her children and husband will rise up and praise her.

Psalms 139 tells us that God was in our mother’s womb when we were being created and designed all of our parts. We all have diverse talents and abilities. None of us can be everything described in Proverbs 31, but we can be exactly what God desires for us to be and do.  The most important trait of this woman is her godly character. It’s been the goal of my life since receiving the Holy Ghost 55 years ago to portray the character traits of the Lord Jesus Christ. What is God?  God is Love! The love of God is shed abroad in our hearts by the Holy Ghost. No matter what abilities or talents you may have, the most important thing you can do is allow the love of God to flow through you to touch the hearts of others. Do not compare yourselves among yourselves because God says that is foolish!  You are His special treasure and a ‘Jesus Design’ to be used for His glory!

 

Carol Clemans is a Certified Pastoral Counselor/Christian Life Coach/Bible seminar speaker, author. She provides nationwide phone counseling (636) 448-0121 & worldwide web cam counseling through http://www.Skype.com. Go to: http://www.carolclemans.org for teaching CD’s, further info and additional articles. Email: carol@carolclemans.org

 

 

 

 

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