By:  Carol Clemans

The Bible is the greatest ‘handbook’ of instruction that exists in the world.  It gives a plan for every aspect of our lives. In Ephesians 6: 1 – 4, there is a blueprint for children’s conduct and fathers’ responsibilities. NLT – “Children, obey your parents because you belong to the Lord, for this is the right thing to do. ‘Honor your father and mother.’ This is the first commandment with a promise: if you honor your father and mother, ‘things will go well for you, and you will have a long life on the earth.’ Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger by the way you treat them. Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction that comes from the Lord.”

We want our children to honor us, but the question is, “Do we act honorable?”

As parents, we must behave ourselves wisely before our children and earn their respect and honor.  We can’t preach, “You must honor me!” and then act like the devil. Our best teacher is our example.

I appreciate Apostle Paul’s direct address to fathers. Many children today carry a lot of anger because of the harsh, unloving way their fathers treat them. Many times it is a dysfunction passed to the third or fourth generation. Notice the instruction was “do not provoke your children to anger by the way you treat them.”  Fathers are to treat their children as our heavenly Father treats us. He (God) is gentle, loving, caring, kind and admonishes us without hostility.  That is the example fathers are to follow.  Fathers are the first ‘god with skin on’ that children will know. The birth fathers’ actions and attitudes will have a dramatic effect on how children view their heavenly Father.

Pease, fathers, be loving, caring and kind to your children and they will honor you. Discipline in love not anger. Be firm and tender at the same time. With God’s help it is possible to do.

Carol Clemans is a Cert. Pastoral Counselor/Christian Life Coach/speaker. She provides nationwide counseling by phone & web cam – – live teaching on – audio archives.