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FAMILIES ARE THE FOUNDATION OF AMERICA

By Carol Clemans

Families are the foundation of America. The family consisting of birth father, birth mother and their children are gradually becoming scarce. This means the foundation of America is showing weakness. When I was a girl, I loved reading the old stories about how people moved west. It was Dad, Mom and the kids. They would find land somewhere in the wide-open spaces, homestead the property and work hard together to create a new life.

These families worked together to make their dreams come true. As years passed, the family would see generations continue and build upon the hard work of their forefathers. There was a love and respect for God, family and friends. Communities would rally around each other and help in the good and the bad times. There was a sense of security in these foundational issues.

Today’s families are so busy but in a totally different way.  In many homes, both parents work outside the home. The babies are born and raised by childcare providers. Dad and Mom rush toward home, pick up the kids, rush a microwave dinner, help kids with homework during school time, watch TV or spend the evening on the Internet. Because of TV, cell phones, ipads, ipods, DVD’s and computers, healthy meaningful communication does not exist. Because of all the detractors, relationships start falling apart. Emotional needs are not being met with parents or children. The magic of marriage disappears. Dad or Mom start becoming emotionally involved with another person and soon there is a divorce in the family.

How would your family function if you had to spend a week together without electronic devices? Would you be able to have meaningful conversations? Would you learn the hopes and dreams of your spouse and children? Would you have time for God and His principles that never fail?

America needs families who put family first and incorporate godly principles in to their lives. Children learn values and morals from an intact family who understand the important things in life are not what money buys. Crime and corruption would decrease instead of increase.  The question we must all ask is: What impact is our family having on America?

Carol Clemans is a Certified Pastoral Counselor/Christian Life Coach/seminar speaker. Carol provides nationwide counseling by phone & web cam – http://www.carolclemans.org

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WHERE IS THE BALANCE IN THE CHURCH WITH SICKNESS, HEALING,

FAITH & DEATH?

By:  Carol Clemans  (www.carolclemans.org)

My first close brush with death was helping a co-worker in my early 20’s deal with her husband’s sudden death due to an aneurism in his stomach. My second close brush with death was while I was visiting my extended family in Indiana and my maternal grandfather died.  I had to help my grandmother plan the funeral.  I stayed in her home the night he died and until my parents flew in for the funeral. Again, I was in my early 20’s, not knowing how to handle things, but learned through these experiences.

In my 30’s, another friend’s husband died with a sudden heart attack. He was at his prime in his 50’s. A wonderful husband, father and friend to pastors who helped build churches, but God allowed his heart to fail.

When I was 42, a close friend died with cancer that started in the breast – to the bone – to the lungs and then congestive heart failure took her to be with the Lord at age 41. During the last few months of her life, she asked me to be her body ‘caretaker’ when she became helpless. It was the hardest experience of my life.

In 1990, one year after my first friend died, another close friend had breast cancer and, thankfully, the Lord allowed to her live.  Since that time she has had bone cancer and another small breast cancer.  She chose not to take chemotherapy and the Lord blessed her with healing and health.  In that same year, my sister-in-law had breast cancer. She had a recurrence, but with treatment and procedures is a survivor today.

My niece, Melody Edday Meeks, at 23 had breast cancer. She took chemotherapy plus surgery and is a survivor today with two young sons in her late 30’s.

I have had to comfort two mothers, one who had a teen son die of a heart defect and the other through an accident.  The process of dying or a sudden death is an inevitable part of life, but we are so unprepared in how to be supportive.

In 1995, while we were preparing for my daughter’s wedding, my father, Elder Raymond G. Theobald, was dying with non-Hodgkin’s lymphoma cancer that he had been battling for two years. He had always been extremely healthy. But at the age of 84, being misdiagnosed by a pulmonary doctor, succumbed to the cancer in advanced stages. At this same time another close friend found out she had lung cancer.  She had the cancer removed from the inner lobe of the lung. It had not spread and she was told she was cancer free.  But in a short time, cancer was discovered in her lungs again.

My father went to the Lord on June 15, 1995, at age 84 ½ and six weeks later my friend went to the Lord at the age of 53.  She had been closely supportive to me through my father’s illness and then the Lord took her.

In 2003/2004 my brother, Rev. David R. Theobald, was diagnosed with non-Hodgkin’s lymphoma. This cancer is not genetic and the doctors were surprised that son and father had the same disease.  David took extensive chemotherapy. He almost died with a blood clot. But the Lord brought him through and he is cancer free today at the age of 75.

In 2007, my dear mother went to the Lord at the age of 93 with congestive heart failure. She had been blessed with moderately good health most of her life.  She survived a fall that ruptured her spleen and almost died in 1974, but God gave her 33 more years of life. Question:  Why does one person die at 41 and another at 93?  Do you have the answer?  I just know that the Bible says our life and times are in the hands of the Lord.

Now, I have another dear close friend who has been diagnosed the second time with cancer that started with inflammatory breast cancer. She will have chemotherapy again plus other medicines.  She lost all of her hair and it has grown back in about three inches and now she is starting the whole procedure over again.  Many, many friends and family members are praying for her healing and health.  We want to see a miracle!

The Bible tells us to weep with those that weep, mourn with those that mourn and rejoice with those that rejoice. The church (I’m speaking collectively as believers) seems only to be comfortable with rejoicing with those who rejoice. When someone gets an illness that could lead to death, diverse messages come from every angle.  “Don’t speak negative.” “If you die, that means you did not have enough faith.”  “If your friend dies, you did not have enough faith for her/his healing.” “God intends for all to be healed.” “Don’t talk about your fears. That gives the devil a foot hold.”  “If you speak a negative thought, that’s a sign of no faith.” I could go on and on with all that I have heard in my 64 years.

I have not read in the Bible that everyone that is sick will be healed.  I have read that it is appointed unto man once to die and then the judgment. I have not read that we are not to deal with our painful emotions.  I have read in the Psalms how David talked to the Lord about the negatives in his life along with the positive praises. Jesus raised Lazarus from the dead, but he had to die again!

It almost seems ‘we’ put the sick person in a strait jacket.  We won’t allow them to express their human emotions regarding their illness. We just ‘plain do not know’ how to comfort others!  God allowed David and Job to express their negative emotions without condemnation!  God knows that at times we all need to VENT OUR VATS out loud to someone who cares and loves us unconditionally. This does not mean that we do not have faith!!  It just means that we are the temples of the Holy Ghost and we live in human flesh that does suffer. We all will die some day with either a sickness of the body or an accident if the Lord delays His return for the Church!!  Jesus hung on the cross and with a loud painful cry screamed out, “MY GOD, WHY HAST THOU FORSAKEN ME!!!!”

Why can’t we be encouragers of faith as well as good listeners and supporters to our friend or family member that has a serious illness?  I’ve allowed all my friends and family members who have had a sickness unto possible death freely talk about their sadness about their sickness and the ‘what ifs’ of possible dying.  Some lived and some died.  Who is going to be the judge as to who had faith?  KEEPING FAITH IN GOD THROUGH THE PROCESS OF DYING IS THE GREATEST FAITH THERE IS!!

Everyone I have mentioned in this writing that is still living will die if the Lord delays His return. Those who died in Christ went instantly into the presence of the Lord! What greater place is there to be?  We seem to almost make it a sin to die!  How ungodly is that?  God took Moses to the mountain when he was in good health, allowed him to die and buried him!  God could have let him live to a ripe old age outside of the Promise Land and then die.  But God made the choice, not Moses.

Because of modern medicine, many people live longer than they would without treatment.  Is having treatment from the medical field a failure to trust God? You tell me?

Should we then say true faith is only trusting God and having no medical treatment? I’m not going to be your judge and I pray you will not be mine.  My cry is for all of us to be real people. We all have doubts, fears and questions at times of sickness and sorrows because we are human.  God does not condemn us for being human.  Job said, “The Lord gives and the Lord takes away, blessed be the name of the Lord!”  He also said, “Even though He slay me, yet will I trust Him!”   Read the chapters in Job of what Job had to say.  He expressed negative feelings about what he was going through.  Yet, at the end of Job, God did not condemn him.  God said, “Job has not sinned against me with his mouth!” (Some of these quotes are my paraphrase).

I’m determined to be supportive to my current close friend who is in her second battle with cancer.  I pray the prayer of faith for her and with her on a daily basis.  I encourage her to say everyday, “Lord, I walk today in health and healing!”  But, I also, want to be a friend that will allow her to express any feeling or emotion she has without condemnation. I want to allow her to VENT HER VAT to me and feel safe doing so because God is also safe with her feelings.  God said we could be angry, but don’t sin with the anger.  We can even tell HIM how angry we are that we are sick and in pain, but also confess our love, faith and trust in HIM who is a good God and does all things well. We can offer HIM the sacrifice of praise in the process of our illness believing for our miracle and trusting Him no matter the outcome.

Also, we have the right to pray for healing and then say, “Nevertheless, Lord, not my will but thine be done!”  That is having tremendous faith in God and complete trust in Him. Jesus prayed that prayer himself.  Don’t condemn me for following HIS example. I visualize that prayer seeing God’s huge hands and me crawling up into the safety of His hands knowing He will do what is right for me!!!  (I feel God’s presence with me as I’m writing this article and I’m in tears.)

We all want to preach Hebrews 11 as the faith chapter.  BUT please go to the last 1/3 of the chapter and read about the faithful who suffered and died without receiving their promise, yet they ALL DIED IN THE FAITH!  Come on, church, get real about life and death.  Only God knows our life and times.  God said we should mourn at a birth and rejoice at a death, but we all do the opposite!

Hezekiah prayed for God to give him 15 more years of life and God did so.  Yet, God allowed John the Baptist to have his head chopped off.  Who had the most faith? I refuse to open my mouth in condemnation to anyone who is suffering a sickness that may be ‘unto death.’ I want to speak life now and, also, speak about the life hereafter.  Paul said whether we live or die we belong to God. We need to be encouragers – as long as there is life, there is hope. But we also need to be able to talk about the blessed hope of the resurrection without someone saying, “You are being negative.”  No, I’m being positive! Whether alive or dead, I belong to God and can sit in heavenly places with Christ Jesus now and also in eternity!

I’m writing this article to prayerfully equip others with the ability to be encouragers to the sick whether their destiny in God is healing or transitioning to their ‘long home.’ I pray that if I have a sickness that could lead to death, that I will have strong believers in the faith who will come along by my side and believe with me for God’s perfect will and destiny for my life either through healing or heading to my eternal home.

© Carol Clemans – July 2010

PUT ON THE WHOLE ARMOR OF GOD

(FOR: http://www.ladiesministries.org – HOPE section)

By: Carol Clemans

There is a song that says, “When the storms of life are raging, stand by me.” That’s a prayer asking God to stand by me in life’s storms. God is not only standing with us, but He has supplied us with armor to ‘put on’ that can withstand any storm of life that we are in the middle of or recovering from. Divorce recovery, abuse recovery, or any other tribulation in life that we are going through is a process and God has not left us comfortless or helpless.

I want to share with you His Word that is a ‘lamp to our feet and a light unto our path.’ Ephesians 6: 10 AMP states, “—Be strong in the Lord (be empowered through your union with Him); draw your strength from Him (that strength which His boundless might provides.) Vs 11 Put on God’s whole armor (the armor of a heavy-armed soldier which God supplies), that you may be able successfully to stand up against (all) the strategies and deceits (wiles/schemings) of the devil.”  It’s through the strength of the Holy Ghost (God in us) that empowers us to stay strong even in the storm.

Verses 12 & 13 tell us that the battles that we fight are in the spirit realm even if they involve other people.  The devil does not want you to have victory in your life. He will magnify the ‘negatives’ of life to create depression and feelings of worthlessness. If others have caused you pain through their disobedience to God, it is a spiritual warfare.  People are either serving God Almighty or the devil who is the ‘lord of the dunghill’ and the god of this world. Our power to survive comes from God and His Word!

Verse 14 – 17 gives instruction, “Stand therefore (hold your ground), having tightened the belt of truth around your loins (gird up the loins of your mind) and having put on the breastplate of integrity and of moral rectitude and right standing with God.

And having shod your feet in preparation (to face the enemy with the firm-footed stability, the promptness, and the readiness produced by the good news) of the Gospel of peace, Lift up over all the (covering) shield of saving faith, upon which you can quench all the flaming missiles of the wicked (one). And take the helmet of salvation and the sword that the Spirit wields, which is the WORD OF GOD.”

What is our armor? It is: TRUTH, INTEGRITY, GOSPEL OF PEACE, SHIELD OF FAITH, HELMET OF SALVATION, and SWORD-THE WORD OF GOD. When we are able to see God’s truth about our situation and are living a life in integrity with God, we will have peace in the storm. When we wear the shield of faith, we are able to withstand the arrows of deceit and pain.  We’ll hear them ‘ping’ on the shield and they will not penetrate our hearts. The helmet of salvation is our assurance that NOTHING can separate us from the love of God. Our sword is the Word of God – He honors His Word above His name!  If we devour the Word daily, we will have sufficient ‘spiritual vitamins’ to give us victory one day at a time.

It’s always God’s Spirit and Truth that enables us to stay strong even when we are feeling weak. Paul talked about in his weakness his strength was made perfect through God who enables us to do ALL things necessary to survive. Nurturing your personal one-on-one time with God by praying in the Holy Ghost builds up your most holy faith (Jude vs 20) and those prayers in the Spirit are praying for God’s perfect will for your life (Romans 8:27). This enables us to understand Romans 8:28 AMP – “We are assured and know that (God being a partner in – labor) all things work together and are (fitting into a plan) for good to and for those who love God and are called according to (His) design and purpose.” God is able to take our ‘storms’ and use them to produce in us FRUIT FOR HIS GLORY!  We can be over comers by putting on the whole armor of God!

People who cause us pain will answer to God.  He is our avenger. The devil is our adversary and in the end he loses!  In the meantime, we do not have to be paralyzed by our past.  God can propel us into His future purpose and plan for our lives!  It’s our choice!  Do we remain emotionally in the pain from the past?  Or do we choose to go forward by the help of the whole armor of God to be victors?  I CHOOSE THE WHOLE ARMOR OF GOD!!!  JOIN ME!!  IT’S WORTH IT!!

Carol Clemans is a Certified Pastoral Counselor/Christian Life Coach/Bible teacher/author. She provides counseling nationwide by phone & web cam (636) 448-0121. She is president of LIFE ENRICHMENT MINISTRIES, INC. (501c3) http://www.carolclemans.org. Carol continually posts new articles on her website, plus teaching CD’s are available – read her family/ministry history.

Carol writes monthly for the PERSPECTIVES (Indiana Bible College). She writes weekly for http://www.greeleygazette.com (CAROL’S CORNER) from her godly conservative view. You may follow Carol on Twitter ‘CarolsCorner’ and on http://www.facebook.com – Carol Theobald Clemans.

Carol and her husband, Rev. Harold Clemans, are part of Pastor Dieter Skowron’s church in Johnstown, CO where Carol provides a teaching/counseling ministry. She teaches the adult class on Sunday that you can hear weekly at http://www.altonline.org under audio archives.

CAROL’S CORNER  (for http://www.greeleygazette.com)

OUR WORDS WILL PROPEL OR PLUMMET OTHERS

By Carol Clemans

Words can ‘kill or make alive.’ Most of us don’t take in to consideration how our words can either be weapons of destruction or tools of encouragement. The most vulnerable recipients of our words are our children. In my 18 years as a counselor, hundreds of people have shared with me how the words of their parents impacted their lives in a negative destructive manner into adulthood. It’s interesting to note, no one has counseled with me and said, “My parents were always positive and upbeat with me.  Their words of encouragement helped me to become who I am today.”

Many people who desire counsel come from a background of verbal and/or emotional abuse that usually includes physical abuse.  The physical wounds have healed, but the verbal/emotional abuse is still as ‘loud’ and painful as it was many years before. Our brain is like a computer, what is put in is what comes out.  As an adult child, the negative abusive words from childhood still haunt and seem to plummet the feelings and dreams of adulthood.

Whatever role we have as a parent, spouse, sibling or friend, we need to listen to our own words. Are they a positive force to propel the ones we love to be their best or are we plummeting their hopes and dreams by our destructive negative words?  The old saying “sticks and stones may break my bones, but names will never hurt me” is totally false. Words can be a creative force for good or a force of destruction like a tornado.

In the beginning, God spoke the world into existence. Yet, the devil used his words to bring evil and death into the world through disobedience to God. The world we live in would be a much better place if all of us considered our words before we spoke.

I want my words to propel others to be the best they can be in all areas of their lives. My prayer is, “Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in thy sight, O Lord, my strength and my redeemer.” If I live by this prayer, my words will propel others in to a positive life that will encourage their dreams and goals. My words will not ‘kill’, but make alive!

Carol Clemans is a Certified Pastoral Counselor/Christian Life Coach/Bible seminar speaker. Carol provides nationwide counseling by phone & web cam – http://www.carolclemans.org

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