Carol Clemans

The most precious gift you can give to your children is to love your husband/wife according to I Corinthians 13 and Ephesians 5. Children create their image of God by how Daddy loves Mommy and by how Daddy and Mommy love them. The secret to this type of love is dying daily to selfishness. I counsel adult children who had parents that abused them verbally, emotionally and physically – including sexual abuse.  Even though these adult children have a salvation experience with God, they struggle with their distorted God-concept because of how they were parented.  It’s hard to trust their ‘heavenly Father’ when their earthly parents were abusive in the home.

Young parents need to WAKE UP to the powerful influence they have on their children’s concept of God. The secret to a God-centered marriage is Ephesians 5:21 KJ – “Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.” When a Mom and Dad live in submission to God and each other, peace and harmony will rule their home. Love for God, each other and the children will manifest itself through their actions.

God’s love is patient, kind, never jealous, boastful, proud or rude. It is not selfish. It is not irritable!!!!!!!  (How do you treat others when things don’t go your way?) God’s love forgives and ‘forgets’. God’s love only rejoices in truth, never gives up, never loses faith and is always hopeful. God’s love is faithful and endures through all circumstances.

Parents, you are your children’s ‘god with skin on.’  Your children need to see in you God’s character – GOD IS LOVE!!  Instead of repeating generational dysfunction in the family, be accountable to God and give the gift of love to your children and grandchildren through the life changing power of the Holy Ghost!

© Carol Clemans – December 2009